Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.
I watched her internal struggle as she’d been prompted to give. It was clear to me that she did not want to give. Her hands gripped the twenty-dollar bill tightly. The truth was, a fear of not having enough gripped her heart even tighter. My dearest friend, the same friend who continually encouraged me in my walk with God, was struggling. Money was her struggle.
We all have struggles that are visible to others. Battles that blind side us, yet are easily evident to our friends.
A judgment on her difficulty with money popped into my head.
Yet, quickly, the Lord replaced it with another thought. “Let the growing Christian grow.”
We’re all growing Christians, and God has placed us in community of sinners. Sinners that struggle with all sorts of things. He placed you in a relationship with a sinner husband, sinner friends, and sinner kids. You’re a sinner, I’m a sinner. We all need space to grow in God’s grace!
We need grace from our loved ones to learn, and grow in Christ. We need an allowance for our faults so God can deal with them. In Ephesians 4:2 it says, “Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”
Living in community means exactly this: loving each other despite our faults and encouraging one another in growth towards Christ. None of us deserves God’s love, yet He offers it freely!
How do we enter into relationships with grace, instead of criticism?
I always imagine my grandmother when I think of grace. She has always lovingly accepted me where I am. With a twinkle in her blue eyes, she loved me for who I was. I never felt criticized by her for not having it all together. Let us love others and make allowances for their faults. Let us not allow our love for one another to become circumstantial or based on another’s performance.