“For it is by Gods grace you have been saved through faith. It is not the results of your own efforts, but Gods gift, so that no one can boast about it.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Is your love calculated or overflowing? Do you love based on what you feel the person deserves or do you love with your full heart? Do you administer your love by giving “just enough,” because the person doesn’t deserve more?
When you are a baking a cake, one tablespoon is carefully measured to fit an exact recipe. You have to carefully fill a quarter cup with just enough. But God’s love never comes in an amount labeled “just enough.”
God doesn’t measure his love, and he wants us to love without measurement too. Just like one heaping cup of sugar overflows as you dump it into the bowl, God’s love comes in an abundance that cannot be measured.
What does it mean to love with abandon? Loving with abandon starts with understanding God’s grace. God’s grace is his ability to love you, despite your sin. If we never understand his love for us and how undeserving we are of it, then we will never understand how to love others.
What tablespoon size are you bringing to your marriage? If you love based on what you are receiving from the relationship, then you have the wrong recipe. If the amount you give is based on the performance of your spouse, you will always be disappointed. A calculated, miserable way to live would be to level off the tablespoon exactly according to what you feel that they deserve. None of us deserve any of it. Our ability to love, our ability to be sanctified, our faith, it is all a gift. “For it is by Gods grace you have been saved through faith. It is not the results of your own efforts, but Gods gift.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Receive the gift given to you, and in turn, give the gift of free love to others. A heaping cup of it.